Wednesday, September 28, 2016

Wisdom of Dreams: Relationships

Hello Dreamers,

Relationships are the very heart of Life.  They are the very thing we all long for and yet we are not taught or trained how to understand how relationships work.  We don't understand ourselves and we don't understand our partners very well, and so we constantly mess up.  With Jupiter traveling through Libra, the sign of relationship, for the next year, perhaps we'll learn how to find healing, balance and our own wholeness if we work with this energy.

Isis & Osiris: Susan Boulet

Ever since the Baby Boomer generation decided to search for our 'soul-mates' (we do have Neptune in Libra, so we put a lot of energy into looking for our perfect mate), we've run into trouble.  Our western culture has a tradition of Romantic Love that can really mess with our heads. If we really look at all the stories (Tristan & Isolde, Romeo & Juliet) that enshrine the idea of Romantic Love in our consciousness, you'll notice that one or both lovers end up dead.  Whether or not that was patriarchy's way of getting us to ignore true love because of the dire consequences that await us, we all have some work to do around the central value of Love.  True love isn't going to lead to literal death--it's supposed to lead to the death of our old ego-consciousness and the birth of a partnership consciousness.

As a Jungian-trained therapist, I like to look at all the figures in a dream as representing ourselves and our own energies, but sometimes we do dream about those people closest to us. 

So what happens when we dream that our husband/wife/partner is off making love to someone else?  This is a common dream occurrence.  Have you ever had one of these dreams?  I have.

What I learned about my husband was that he was emotionally engaging with a fantasy woman instead of being engaged with me.  And sometimes, that's okay.  We can't control who or what our people love, just as we can't control who we love.  Sometimes to grow, we have to let our emotional body connect with someone who isn't our life-partner.  That doesn't mean that they are literally cheating on us, but it does mean that we might not be providing the emotional support that is our job in the relationship.  And so our partners 'cheat' by imagining another way to feel.  Who are we to deny them this if we ourselves are holding back our love and emotions.

So next time you have a dream that your partner is playing around with someone else, check in with yourself to see where you've let your end of the relationship drop.  And then find ways to enchant that partner back into your bed.

Until next time,
Sweet Dreams!

Tuesday, September 13, 2016

Wisdom of Dreams: Trusting Your Own Inner Wisdom

Elana Gibeault

Hello Dreamers!

This week's Pisces Full Moon lunar eclipse brings together the energies of Virgo, dealing with health and Pisces, the Collective Unconscious.  I was given permission to use one woman's dream to exemplify these energies.

The Dream:

I'm on a sandy beach down near the docks.  The day is overcast and the surf is choppy. My family is in the water in sunlight and having fun.  I'd like to join them.  I start toward them but notice floating debris all around me.  I realize it is dirty hypodermic needles and they seem to be contaminated with blood in them.  I'm upset because I've been stuck by several.  I call out to D. to tell him what's happened and he insists I go to the hospital.  I'm not sure how to manage that.

Then I'm on the dock with my sisters.  My older sister has a basket full of beautiful dresses belonging to our mother.  The dresses are like peacock feathers, blues and greens with diamond cutouts.  My sister L and I put on dresses and I'm surprised they fit, since Mom was so tiny.  L surprises us by jumping into the water and we all applaud.  There is a wedding party in a boat and the entire party applauds.

I'm in the ocean but feel apprehensive.  I know something is swimming all around me.  I realize I am surrounded by black whales.  They are beautiful and enormous and I'm frightened.  One whale swims beneath me and I'm lifted standing on its back.  I ride amongst the pod of whales this way and it is exhilarating and beautiful.

The last part of the dream I am looking at and trying to understand what this small black thing is.  It looks something like a piece of coal with many small specks all over it.  This black thing has water flowing over it constantly.  Like a fountain of water that makes it shimmer.  I keep looking closely, concerned that the small shapes might be insects or worms but it never seems that they are alive.  There is much movement and I'm not sure if the water is creating this effect.  I wake still not having figured out what it is.  

The four sections of this dream give us the present issue, bring up the origin of the issue, then present the crisis and a new resolution to the issue.  And finally the dreamer is left with a puzzle.

Without going into every facet of this complex dream, I will give a brief interpretation that the dreamer felt was relevant.

The first part of the dream is about the dreamer's recent experience with a return of her Lyme disease and western medicine.  She took their treatments, couldn't go out into the sun during the summer and yet the pain is still present and nothing much was accomplished.  This is represented by the contaminated needles and the thought she should go to the hospital.  Virgo is associated with doctors and healing. In this part of the dream, she is presented with her wound--western medicine just didn't help her.   The dreamer usually uses alternative doctors, so her going to a western doctor was dictated by family members who were worried about her.  So she tried it.  And it didn't help.

 The next part of the dream shows us where the emotional component of the flair-up might be rooted.  It has to do with trying to fit into a pattern that her mother established.  Her mother had polio as a child, became a nurse and died young.  The dreamer is quite independent of her mother's opinions but we all have deep, psychological beliefs from our childhood.  Clothes represent attitudes we put on, beliefs we live by.  These clothes, with their peacock colors, indicate the rules of being married, since peacocks are symbols of Hera, the Goddess of relationships and marriage. And the diamond pattern symbolizes how her mom set the pattern of partnership, as if this represented her 'higher Self''. How do we have self-ownership in a partnership?  Do we make our own decisions or listen to our partner's?  How free are we in our partnerships to stand up for what we believe in?

Even though she thinks the clothes should be too small on her, the dreamer fits into them.  And her older sister--who is also married--always the emotional sister, does the unexpected and jumps into the water.  The dreamer's mom was not openly emotional, and all the girls were taught to reign in their emotions, except for this sister.  It might be that the dreamer wants to express her feelings more openly--the blues and greens of the dresses also relate to the heart and throat chakras.  Perhaps the dreamer needs to express some of her more negative emotions in her marriage, which is hard for this intelligence, calm and compassionate woman.  But the wedding party and her sister would applaud her for doing the unexpected.

 Pilot Whale tends to stick to the deeper waters and
 are praised for their extremely high level of intelligence.

So while this flair-up manifests physically, the emotional component seems to be sourced in listening to others instead of listening to and trusting herself, and being more flexible about expressing her emotions.  That's where the 3rd part, the crisis, comes into play.  When the dreamer goes into the waters of the Unconscious, the ancient wisdom of her soul responds.  This is the Pisces element.  The whales symbolize the ancient records of life here on Earth--the Akashic Records.  They come to uphold her, which is both frightening and overwhelmingly glorious.  Can the dreamer trust her soul's wisdom rather than conventional wisdom?

The fourth part is the resolution.  The mysterious piece of 'coal'.  Coal is the prima materia that turns into a diamond. This piece symbolizes the dreamer's own core Self, washed in the waters of her tears and the waters of life.  It is full of scintillating light which indicates her Diamond Body or Higher Self, which can be revealed through the waters of her emotional body.  She has to explore the mystery of her own Self.

What this dreamer realized is that she can listen to her own instincts, trust their guidance and find out what her Higher Self is teaching her through her illness.  And knowing her, so much more wisdom is to come!

Until Next Time,
Sweet Dreams!

If you want to learn how to let your dreams guide you in making decisions in your life, email me for an appointment!  You'll be grateful you did, for your dreams hold your own inner Wisdom!

Tuesday, August 30, 2016

Virgo Dreams: Needing to be Perfect or Embracing the Mystery of Yourself

As I pondered which dreams best represent the energies of Virgo, the first dreams to pop into my mind were the dreams we all have of feeling we aren't ready for something in our lives.  You know those dreams: you're suddenly back in school and you're having a test and you haven't studied for it.  Or those dreams of having to give a presentation and you never did the work.

Constellation of Virgo

These dreams are about our own insecurities and feelings of being unprepared for life's tasks.  We all have them because our society really doesn't teach us anything about how to deal with life.  Do our schools teach us how to see the big picture, think analytically, understand our emotional intelligence, work with our intuitions or understand our gut instincts?  NO!  Our educational system basically cuts things up into little pieces and leaves us to figure out how to put the puzzle pieces together.  Schools make us memorize dates in history but rarely teach us the reason why certain issues arose in those societies and how they affect us today.  We learn math, but never how it applies to our real lives.  We are never taught a wholistic vision of how we fit into the life of the world and our society.  We aren't even taught how to understand ourselves and others and how to be in relationships, which is the one thing most of us want to engage in.

So you can see why so many of us have these dreams of being unprepared for life.  And that's why these dreams are connected to Virgo, because it is in the sign of Virgo that we pull everything together.  Virgo is the sign of the Virgin, the one who belongs to herself.  Who has integrated body, soul and spirit.  When we don't know how to do that, we tend to fall into control issues and try to be 'perfect'.  Virgo is not about being perfect but rather about being whole.

Now the other side of Virgo, whose motto is 'Know Thyself' is to embrace the mystery of who you are so you can dance with life.  And that reminds me of a dream I had at the Jung Institute about 30 years ago.  It's one of my favorite memories and I embrace this dream whenever I feel like I've lost my center and need to be 'perfect'!

In the dream, I'm in an airplane that has just landed in Egypt.  We have a stopover and I decide to leave the plane and go look at the pyramids.  I check to make sure I have my ticket and am surprised to see that the name on the ticket is STAR.  As I walk down the road, I see someone coming towards me.  As the figure gets closer, I see that it is a little baby Sphinx!  Golden, with the body of a lion cub, small wings and a human face.  This baby Sphinx comes to me and takes my hands and we dance with joy and wonder.  

Some dream, huh!  The Sphinx is associated with Virgo, for in ancient Egypt the Nile flooded during the Leo/Virgo season, so they united Leo the Lion and Virgo the Virgin.  The Sphinx is a symbol for the mysteries of Life, which can only be understood through the creative right brain imagination.  Not what we usually associate with our put-together, uptight, controlling stereotype of Virgo.

This Virgo New Moon is a solar eclipse, which means we can really leave something behind us and plant a new vision of life for ourselves.  Perhaps we need to leave behind fear and insecurity, distrust and victimization.  Take time to meditate on what you want to know about yourself.  Whatever is holding you back from living fully, let it go and embrace the mystery.

The baby Sphinx of my dreams tells me that there is always the possibility of new life.

Until next time,
Sweet Dreams!

Monday, August 15, 2016

The Wisdom of Dreams: Baby You're a Star!

Elana Gibeault
The Dreaming Mind

Just like Prince, who in Purple Rain realized that he was a star, we are all Stars. We all have the archetypes of life within us and we all have many lives' worth of experiences within us.  Just because you're not ruling the world at the moment doesn't mean your inner star isn't alive and well and living in your heart.

With the Aquarius Full Moon coming up this week, I've been reflecting on how each of us is so unique and yet the same. With the Aquarian ideal of Community we also have to be able to shine like our Leo Star.  We have to unite these opposites and get over thinking we have to compete with each other to see who is the 'best' instead of working together to make something the 'best'.  

When I was trying to decide what kind of dreams typified the energy exchange of Leo and Aquarius, I realized that it had to be the dreams we have about important cultural icons or superheroes.  When we dream about 'stars' and other famous people, we are dreaming ourselves into that archetypal plane of existence, which resonates with the sign of Aquarius, the Cosmic Mind. 

When I lived in Los Angeles in the 90s, I would meet people there who were trying to make their way into the byzantine world of Hollywood.  And when they found out that I am a Dream Worker, they'd tell me, with great excitement, that they had been dreaming about a particular actor/director/ writer and they just knew they were going to meet and be together.  Most of them had a talent they were pursuing, so they were living out a part of their dreams.  But I often felt they wasted their enthusiasm and passion believing that they were 'meant' to be with this famous person.  

Don't get me wrong.  It's very seductive to think that the intimacy we sometimes experience with people in the dreamworld is a sign we're supposed to be with them in the outer world.  And sometimes, maybe it even comes true.  However, for most of us, it's better to use the energy generated by knowing that this archetypal figure lives within your psyche.

I used to dream about two 'stars' almost every week for years.  Trying to maintain my dignity as a Jungian :) , I struggled to 'own' these two creative and activist artists as part of me, and I started writing and doing my environmental work.  Sometimes, though, the personal knowledge and intimacy was hard to deny. I was lucky to have my Jungian background, so I could see how an alchemical process was taking place within me.  I was integrating my personal new masculine energy.   Although I do tease myself about them with my friends, so whenever one of them comes near my circle of friends, they all point to me and say I brought them in!

So who are you dreaming about?  Perhaps you've been hanging out with President Obama or Michelle.  Or maybe Robert Redford thinks you're delicious or Merle Streep thinks you're desirable.  Or perhaps you're shooting baskets with Michael Jordan or DeAndre Jordan.  Or riding motorcycles with Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise.  (As you can see, I don't know the younger 'stars'!)  Perhaps you've been hanging out with the Dalai Lama or Pope Francis.  Or with Bernie Sanders or Hillary Clinton.

Whoever you're hanging out with in your dreams holds your talents and possibilities within their energy fields.  They are the 'star' in YOU!  So if you're dreaming about someone in the news, know that you too share their energy.  

And of course, if you dream you're cozy-ing up to someone you dislike, you might have to take a look at your Shadow.  While nobody is all good or all bad, we each get to face our own unconsciousness when we dance with the Devil.  Or the Donald!

Until Next Time,
Sweet Dreams!

Saturday, July 30, 2016

Cosmic Dreamer: The Fires of Transformation

What's Cooking?: Fires of Transformation

Dreams can offer us knowledge about our shadows, our fears and our anxieties, as well as our transformative experiences.  Our dream images can pinpoint how these energies are expressing themselves in our lives.

Fire is one of the primal elements of life, along with water, air and earth.  The element of fire illuminates, transforms, creates and destroys.  Fire in dreams can express some of our fears very clearly, as well as our passion and our need for transformation.

When we dream about fire burning down our house, it helps to look at what we're angry at.  What's going on in our lives that is making us so angry that we'd rather destroy something than heal it? When our 'home' is overwhelm by the destructive power of fire, we are losing a vital part of ourselves in the flames.  What's burning you up inside?  Are you having a temper tantrum?  Burning houses down is not a sign of health.

When we dream of fire as passion, we might find ourselves in a flaming bed if our passion is becoming obsession.  Or we might dream that a candle set in a window is calling us home to our heart.

One of many repeating dreams I've had over the years about fire involves kitchen stoves.  I would often have dreams where there were two or three kitchens in my home.  I would go and stoke the fire to cook something in one, and then I'd find myself in a whole other part of the house in a new kitchen.  And sometimes even find myself in a third kitchen.  And as we know, the Goddess always works in threes!  So I was undergoing a process, a process that transformed and enlightened me. 

Fire helps transform what is raw into something cooked and easily assimilated into consciousness.  Having the fire in a stove makes for more control and focus. During my years at the C. G. Jung-Institut, Zurich, I had many house dreams with multiple kitchens.  These were the years when I was undergoing major transformations in my life, years when I had to learn what my life experiences were teaching me and forming my character. 

On one level these multiple kitchens and stoves symbolized the process of integrating my unconscious knowledge into my life.  On another level, multiple kitchens referred to transformation occurring in my Body, Mind and Spirit.  

And of course, there are the Sacred Fires, like the fire above at the Sekhmet Temple, which burn with our passionate love for the Goddess.  

However Fire finds its way into your dreams, always treat it with respect and honor its power!

Until Next Time,

Sweet Dreams!


Monday, July 4, 2016

More Water Dreams: Tidal Waves!

Dreaming of Tidal Waves 

Dreams speak to us in symbolic language, but too often we want to make them concrete. In our dreams, 'sometimes a cigar is just a cigar' (referring to Freud's insistence that it's a penis), but most of our dreams tell us a story in symbols.
Since the Sun is still in Cancer, we are discussing the symbolism of water. Let's look at a very powerful dream image—the Tidal Wave/ Tsunami.
Have you had Tidal Wave dreams? How did you feel about it? Fearful, worried, interested?
Tidal waves can symbolize a powerful upheavel in the collective unconscious. The oceans symbolize this realm of our collective experience.
The Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung felt that the collective unconscious represents a form of the unconscious (that part of the mind containing memories and impulses of which the individual is not aware) common to mankind as a whole and originating in the inherited structure of the brain. He also felt that it contained all those feelings and needs that have been rejected by our collective consciousness.
So having a Tidal Wave dream tells us that we're experiencing that up-welling of feelings that are rejected by our society—such as love, compassion, wisdom, equality, freedom. These waves are not just about our personal upset, but about how the entire culture is shifting and changing.
Tidal Wave dreams comes in many forms. Sometimes people dream that they see a tidal wave coming at them or their house and are full of fear. Sometimes the waves sweep over them and sometimes they only come up to the house and then depart. These dreamers often feel threatened by the feelings and changes these waves symbolize.
I used to have many tidal wave dreams back in the 70s and 80s. I would be walking on the beach and would see giant waves hanging in the sky, never breaking, just hanging there. Sometimes people were even swimming in those waves, like daring surfers who ride giant waves on their boards. I was surprised and interested but never afraid. Sometimes I even swam in those waves myself.
The most interesting tidal wave dream I had was in one of my formative
'big dreams'. In it, I was sitting in a buckboard wagon and I saw a waning Moon in the sky. Suddenly I knew a giant tidal wave was about to break over me and the people I was with. I thought, “this is it”. The next thing I knew, the wave had gone by and a beautiful waxing crescent Moon shone in the sky. There was more to the dream, which I've recounted in my book, Wisdom's Daughters: How Women Can Change the World.
All of us have times in our lives when our old life must be left behind so a new life can begin. This is the message of a Tidal Wave Dream. The old is being swept away, so the new life can emerge from the depths. Each of us will meet this change in oiur own way—either with fear or with excitement.
If you have any tidal wave dreams you want to share, please do!
Until next time,

Sweet Dreams!

Thursday, June 30, 2016

Dreams of Water

Since the Sun is traveling through the sign of Cancer, whose element is Water, it's a great time to explore what Water means in dreams.

The element of water is a basic necessity of life.  Without it we soon die.  That's why all ancient myths call it the Water of Life.  Our bodies are composed of 80% water and we were gestated in our mother's watery womb, just as Life itself was nurtured in the womb of the primeval oceans.

There are many forms of water that can appear in our dreams.  Rivers, the ocean, a pond.  The rain.  It's how we interpret the images that help us understand why this particular type of water appears in our dreams.

This is a dream a woman reader sent me about her male friend.
I have a very good friend (more than a friend) who had a dream of him, together with Jesus walking across water, which had very big and high waves. They walked on the waves and through them like they were solid ground. They were both happy, talking, smiling. He says it was a very unusual dream and he had never had such an unusual dream before.
The Bible story about Jesus walking on water comes after two very important events. The first is the death of John the Baptist. The second is that Jesus and the disciples feed 5000 people in the desert with five loaves of bread and two fishes. After this, Jesus sends his disciples back in their boat to cross the lake and he goes to pray. Then Jesus walks on water to the boat. At first his disciples think he is a spirit, and when he says he isn’t, Peter says, “Lord, if it be Thou, bid me come unto Thee on the water." Jesus calls him to come walk with him and Peter does. But the waves are high and the wind is strong and Peter is afraid. He loses faith and starts to sink. Jesus reaches out to him and saves him, saying, "O thou of little faith, why didst thou doubt?"
The Bible story shows us the evolution of faith. After the death of the prophet John, people were in doubt and fear. The government could kill anyone they wanted to, even someone as respected as John. We see this happening in our world right now. So the people seek out Jesus and he feeds them. He feeds them by providing them with an example – we have to share our resources. They ended up with more bread and fish than they began with. It was a miracle, or at least the miracle of getting people to share.
When we are in fear of what the world can do to us, it is our faith in Spirit – whether Jesus, the Buddha, the Goddess or God – that can nurture us. But if we want more than simple faith and nurturing, we have to trust in Spirit during the stormy, insecure times by taking steps that might seem highly dangerous. We have to walk on water.
Walking on water is an amazing feat. These waters symbolize the Collective Unconscious, the collective rejected needs of the world; yet despite the great unrest in our collective consciousness, we don't have to be overwhelmed by it. The wild waters symbolize feelings that could swamp this man if he wasn't centered in Spirit.
Walking on water indicates that a seemingly impossible situation is being dealt with quite well. This man isn’t afraid of the stormy waters. He is walking and talking with Jesus, his particular spiritual guide. And they are happy, because he knows that ‘All is Well’ even if outer events seem to indicate the opposite.
This is a wonderful dream not only for this man but for all of us. He is handling a rough time in his life with faith and confidence, because he is being guided by Spirit. Can we say the same?  
One of the astrological patterns we're working with now deals with this issue of faith in troubled times. (see The Cosmic Story)  Do we have the spiritual will and creative imagination to 'walk on water' as we face an uncertain future?  That's the question this man, and each of us, is being asked.
Until next time,
Sweet Dreams